All posts filed under: Advice

On friendship | The problem with ‘us’ in the age of ‘me’

I’m writing this thirty thousand feet in the air. The turbulence is driving me crazy. And I’m sure that this ill-advised second of bottle of wine, at any given moment, will demand its way out of my stomach. What am I doing? Nothing brings out pitiful self-reflection quite like fear. But to be honest, deep down inside I know these heart wrenching shakes – they’re nothing more than part and parcel of the whole travelling ‘experience’. I once had a conversation with a woman that comes to mind right now. It is the stuff of my nightmares. I can’t remember what started the conversation, or even what the rest of  it was about, but it haunts me: “…all friendships eventually die, and so will you.” So simple. But it broke me. A decade later and I am still a spotty, acne ridden teen, a slave to the power of those words. What was strange was, at the time, I remember scoffing at it; blazing with confidence. Ha! Whatever. Whatever you say, you old bag. I had my Bee, I had Marie, …

“Brave is as brave does” | How to build up the confidence to travel alone in 3 easy steps

“Brave is as brave does”  This is me in 2011. I had just left my friends and (then) boyfriend, in Thailand, and moved to Shanghai. It was to be the adventure to end all adventures, and… I was traveling completely alone. When I tell people, that I often take holidays alone, I always get a look. It’s usually an undisguised look of astonishment, mingled with a hint of judgement. Then the questions come. Sometimes they are brazen enough to just simply ask, “why?” But more often than not, I am asked, “are you single?” I don’t believe it is something entirely to do with my gender, because I’ve even had men telling me that they’d be afraid to do it. But why not? Why can’t some people, just get on a plane, and travel to far-flung places, without the need for a chaperon? When we think of that solo intrepid traveler, we usually think of: flowing tie dye, with dreadlocks, that can sometimes can be seen with a tambourine or two; jamming with the locals on the …

Why cook or bake?

As a child I loved museums. For one, they were free! As cities go, London is one of the best in the world for its eclectic cultural scene, but cheap it isn’t. You could go there and marvel at humanity’s achievements. I’d go to ogle at the hand-crafted chairs, featured in the likes of the British Museum, and wonder if I could ever create something like that. I would stand in awe at the displays of embroidery, and curse my little butter fingers for only being able to clumsily stitch the buttons back on my jacket. I was a child enthralled, filled with so many passions, that I now realize would definitely have taken many lifetimes to satisfy. Just don’t tell her that. I still don’t know how to do any of these things. But deep down inside, I still want to. So why haven’t I? Well, first, I haven’t got the raw wood, in my inner-city bubble, I’m sorry to say that I didn’t have many encounters of the stuff. Now that I am in Asia, this idea looks a …

How to Follow Your Passion Even if You Don’t Know What It Is

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This article originally appeared on Levo.com. I, personally, am tired of people giving advice like, “just follow your passion,” or “do what you love and the money will come.” If you’re one of the (very few) Millennials out there who knows exactly what you want to do with your life, and you’re taking conscious, consistent steps toward it… then by all means, continue to follow your passion! But most of us aren’t in that boat. If you’re like the majority of Millennials, you’re still struggling to uncover what it is that you’re actually passionate about. So what’s intended as an inspirational phrase turns into one more thing to stress about and judge yourself for. How are you supposed to follow your passion if you don’t even know what it is? I’ve been there… and it’s not fun. (MORE: Build Your Career Around Passion) The (Short) Backstory I’ve always been so inspired by people who have created something amazing and impactful at a young age. I’m fascinated by college students who created…

There’s hope for us all…

I’ve often been accused of being the ‘blind optimist’. And what is wrong with that exactly?…. Seriously though, what is so wrong with trying to push through sad situations? Isn’t everybody entitled to feel how they want? And since you are… Why would anyone choose to be miserable? Just like you choose to wear a certain style of clothing, or the way you choose to visit the pub every blimmin Thursday without fail. You don certain patterns and behaviors; conditioning yourself to them. It’s your choice. It’s always your choice. And yes they can be hard to break, but they’re not impossible. Nothing is impossible. Except for interstellar space travel, but we’ll leave that to the oh-so-sexy Elon Musk[swoon]. Where was I? I do believe that in some circumstances, it becomes a crutch that we hold on to, so we don’t have to do more. The more being anything that might possibly lead to failure or rejection, or dare I say it, nothing. 随便!随便你吧! Quoting the newest song that has drilled its way deep into my brain: “…To rise over love, And over …